Guess Who Showed Up?

Guess Who Showed Up?

Let me introduce you to my most recent new Collective who have made a connection with me with messages for all of us.  They are a smaller group than I normally communicate with but they are nonetheless here with a powerful loving message to assist us to integrate our Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine and help us move forward into the 5th Dimension.

Here are “The Revolutionaries Collective”.

Today is Friday November the 13th 2020. And this is Gail Scott channeling.We are a collective of the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine energies. We call ourselves “The Revolutionaries” for we transit from one galaxy to another in the hope of being able to assist species with the experience of energy exchange.  This is a novel concept for you as humans for you generally do not exchange energies, certainly not at the conscious level.

And so, we bring this message, for it is revolutionary to you. For this is the dimension into which you are traveling, the fifth dimension, the dimension of love, heart energy, expanded consciousness and revolutionary change for you; for this is an energy into which you have not existed in the past, for the eons of evolutions that you have gone through has taken some time to develop and be initiated at each new level.

We, as a collective, are a smaller collective than this one is used to channeling, and yet we are no less powerful than the other ones that she brings through. For we are very centered in our being and we assist other beings with the transition into a more evolved feminine and masculine entity, we would say.  For each of you as a species, as a human being in the human species, it can encompass both feminine and masculine energies. There have been some difficulties for you, for the Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine have exhibited themselves in separation for a very long time. And we are here as “The Revolutionaries” to assist you to, we would say, solidify the connection between these two energies. And so this is as we described, the energy exchange.

It is not so much an exchange, but an interrelatedness for the Divine Feminine. Although it was highly evolved many eons ago, it has chosen to take a step back in your evolution, in order for the Divine Masculine to come forward to create. This is a bit of a dichotomy, for it is in the Divine Feminine that the creative energy is more powerful, but that is a different conversation.

The Divine Masculine has an excess of power in the creative realm around technology, structure, materialism. This is not at the level of the Divine Feminine, so to speak. And so there has been a chasm, a separation between the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine over the last eons of time. And now, you as a species are evolving to a place where both Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine will integrate, interrelate, exchange in such a way that you can call upon each of these energies to become a more fully rounded being.

This is a new concept at this level, at this time, and this one will be experiencing more and more learnings and teachings through us in order to assist you at this time.

There are many different ways that you as a human being can embody your Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine.  This is not a gender issue for your genders are shifting, morphing and changing into all kinds of evolutions as you have already witnessed in the last century.  We are specifically relating to the energy with which you inhabit your physical form, incorporating energies of Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine.

This will be a new experience for many of you, a new intellectual knowing, at an energetic level. This may sound like gobbledygook for many of you, who do not understand what we mean and so, over the next little while, we shall be interpreting this for you at an easier level for you to understand what this means.

The Divine nature of your being has been somewhat lost in, we would say, the evolution of your species at a physical level, and we shall be introducing new concepts and new teachings to you, in order for you to understand what it may mean. For some of you will need to understand your Divine Masculine more and some of you may need to understand your Divine Feminine more, and some of you may just need to up the ante on both of them.

And so, we are here as an introduction at this time, to introduce ourselves to you. And we call ourselves “The Revolutionaries”, for this will be a re-evolution of you, an individual soul in the human experience, and also you the human collective, as an experience as a collective.

And so what does this mean?

This means that your soul inhabits you and an individual body and an individual personality with an individual spirit having an individual experience on the planet. But it also means that the soul, the whole, the One, is also having an experience of you as a group of human beings, as a mass of human energy, and as a mass of spiritual energy and a mass of soul energy.

And so how do you as a collective energy, accumulate all of the learnings and teachings that you will integrate at an individual level, into the collective level? This is the journey. This is the experience that you will bring forward at this time and this one will be teaching you, through us, how to do that.

And so be prepared for new teachings to come forward, for new ways of thinking to come forward, for new ways of being to be introduced to you in order for you to be able to assimilate and be more integrated in both the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine. For the essence of feminine and masculine has lost its connection to the Divine in a greater way, and we will be bringing this forward for you with ways that you can embody more of a Divine nature, for moving into the fifth dimension, this essence of love will require you to be more connected to the Divine.

You may not understand what this means, and this is not important at this time. But we are very excited to be a new channel for this one, to enjoy the experience of bringing forward her experiences and learning and knowledge and wisdom, through our experience and knowledge and wisdom. And together, we will bring this forward for you as an individual and as a collective.

We surround you with the love of the Divine Feminine and the Divine Masculine. And we are excited to begin this journey with you today. And with that, we bring you the essence of Divine Feminine and Divine Masculine light and love to surround you and to open your eyes to new possibilities, new ways of being, new soul connections, new spiritual enlightenments for you on this journey that you are on right now. This is not a difficult journey, but it will be a journey nonetheless. And with that, we close our message to you today in love and light.

Family Feud or Family Fun?

Family Feud or Family Fun?

Getting (even the toughest) People in your Life to Work With You!

She’s moving baaaaaack!

This time last year my eldest daughter Victoria decided she couldn’t live with me and Caitlin (her wee sister) any longer.  So for the first time ever, she moved in with her dad.

If you’re on Instagram or Facebook, you’ve likely seen my posts every day since August 1st as part of a hashtag “#augustbreak2020”.  Last Friday I posted a couple of pictures of Caitlin and I with the caption “mirrored”.  

I shared how alike we are.  We’re basically kindred spirits and forever soulmates as we rarely fight and we love hanging out with each other. We regularly close malls when we shop together, have the same food sensitivities, and finish each other’s sentences all the time. 

After 22 years of living with this kind of relationship at our house, well, let’s just say, Victoria couldn’t handle it any more and chose to leave.  I mean, it’s understandable.  Can you imagine living with two almost identical people (one Boomer, one Gen Z) who look, think, talk and behave alike?  

In light of all this, Victoria knew that she needed her space.

Two days after the Caitlin post, I shared a collage of me with Victoria with the title “joy” on Instagram.  This time I talked about how this beautiful young woman, my eldest, has brought me so much joy, learning and challenge, especially trying to be a role model for her.  

And now she’s coming back home.  It turns out she misses us, and likes living with us after all. 

Strategy for Change! 
When the idea of her coming home again was brought up I knew we needed a plan because any change in family dynamics has to ensure everyone is heard and considered. 
Caitlin wasn’t so sure it was a good idea. I was trying to figure out how to make sure everybody was happy … a seemingly impossible task with 3 hormonal women, 3 cars and 3 careers in a small semi-detached house.  

TIP #1: Have Real Conversations
If you are faced with a dilemma like this, you need to take everyone into consideration. Conversations need to happen separately before doing it as a family so everyone has a chance to think it through. Sometimes even writing it all out helps you be super clear. Don’t forget to keep an open mind.

Victoria and I sat down together to talk about what she needed to move back in with Caitlin and I. 
Caitlin and I had a conversation to discuss what it would be like to have Victoria live with us again. 
I sat down with myself and thought long and hard about what this would mean for me. The lock down had given me 5 months of alone time while Caitlin was on a school exchange in Europe and Victoria was living at her dad’s.  I realized that all of us would want privacy and need respect, and none of us were the same people we were last year.
TIP #2: Have a Shared Agenda so Everyone Can Contribute
Use your phone Notes, Google Drive, or even a piece of blank paper entitled “Family Agenda” on the fridge to write ALL the talking points down so nothing gets missed.  Write each issue or question as open ended subjects so no decisions are made prior to meeting. This way the conversation can allow for all possibilities, solutions and considerations.

We set an agenda within a shared “note” in our phones so we could all contribute our questions and points to discuss. We left it open for a few weeks to give us time to think it over. 

TIP #3: Schedule a Meeting With Everyone
When you make it official it’s easier to negotiate the conversation. Someone has to lead it … it will probably be you, so keep your cool, and listen to what’s said, and not said. This is what’s needed for love and connection to flourish amidst change and challenge. When you use clear communication everyone knows the drill, appreciates the structure and honors the process. Take it seriously and be involved. This way you’ll get an outcome that works for everyone. Honor each person.
We sat down together in a “family meeting” to talk through boundaries, communication, finances, chores and privacy.  We also discussed how we would navigate food, rent, visitors and space. It was an easy conversation and everyone was clear, happy and felt heard at the end. We did it over dinner and we even used a straw as a “talking stick” so each person had their turn. We have been having family meetings like this since 2007 when their dad and I divorced, so they were onboard with the process.

Keeping the Communication Going 
This kind of communication strategy and practice often doesn’t come naturally to most of us.  It is a skill that is learned over time, with consistency and persistence for the greater good of all.  We learn to set aside our egos and realize that to work together we must come from the deeper heart-centered love that we hold for one another. It takes effort, commitment and desire.

My coaching clients learn all this, and more when they work with me.  They receive specific guidance, phrases, responses and tools to help them keep their cool, and come from love in any difficult conversation they encounter, either at work, in love or with family.

If you’d like help with your communication skills, complete my “Getting Started Coaching Form” and let’s talk.  I will give you one hour of my time to help you find out what’s needed for you to be happier, more confident and live fearlessly.  Especially in difficult conversations. Here’s the form again.

In conclusion, Victoria will move back in at the end of the month, Caitlin is happy, and I’m making sure I continue to get my alone time!  It is a win/win/win for all three of us.

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Your Hug Style? The “A” hug? Or the “I” hug?

Your Hug Style? The “A” hug? Or the “I” hug?

I noticed it right away. My body is frozen and I am decidedly uncomfortable.  I am scared, my heart is pounding, and my throat feels like it’s constricted.  I’m having a panic attack.

It’s my first Tantra workshop, and we are learning how to hug.

I don’t do hugs.

Well, I mean if I HAVE to I will, BUT, it’s definitely an “‘A” hug.  You’ve seen them right?

It’s a weak attempt to wrap an arm around the top of the shoulders of the other person, and you never lean in too far.  Your legs are far away from each other.  God forbid your hips meet.

It never lasts more than a millisecond and bodies hardly touch.  It is enough just to say, there I did it.  We hugged, right? 

That’s the “A” style hug.

Now an “I” style hug … that’s completely different. And that’s what I was being asked to do.

Oh God.  There’s no room between the bodies, and the hug is tight.  I mean tight.  My friend is a great hugger, and she loves them.  She gives “I” style hugs, and she is a natural.  And she learned it in her family.  They are all natural huggers.

But not me.  Nope.  We didn’t hug in our family.  It’s not what Scottish people do.  We are definitely “A” style huggers.  We don’t even say “I love you” either, so hugging would have been just plain weird.

Back to the Tantra workshop, I am like a deer in the headlights.  Frozen like the North Pole.  

The poor guy who’s trying to hug me is having a really hard time as the teacher tells us to make sure our thighs are touching.  What?  Thigh touching.  You’ve got to be kidding.  What kind of workshop is this?

So we (attempt to) hug for almost 30-60 seconds, and then we can stop.  I breathe a huge sigh of relief. Thank God that’s over.

Without human touch though we lose our connection to ourselves and to others.  We die inside.

But then it’s the next person in the circle and gosh, don’t I have to do it again, and again,and again.  It doesn’t get any easier, until finally the last guy comes towards me.  We begin our hug. Heart to heart. Thigh to thigh, close, tight and yet I’m still uncomfortable.  What is wrong with me?

Then something inside of me shifts.  I begin to let go.  Despite the constant thighs touching it doesn’t feel quite so weird anymore.  I think I’m getting used to it.  I can feel my body soften, just a little.  With his chest against mine I can feel my heart beating.  I hear my breath.  I sense myself.  I sense him.  I feel present.

This is an “I” hug.

It’s only 30-60 seconds but it feels like an eternity to me and this time, I don’t want it to stop? 

He holds me as all the others had done, and I hold him.  But this time it’s different.

Like chocolate, I’m beginning to melt.  Warm, sweet honey, I can feel my body relax and I begin to trust.

Oooooh … so this is what it’s supposed to feel like?

It’s not sexual.

It’s better.

It’s safe.  Loving.  Real.  Connection.

  • Deeper connections don’t happen by magic.
  • They take effort, time and practice.
  • We must be willing to trust, let go and relax.
  • We open our hearts and let love in.

I’m finally trusting.  I’m letting go and I’m relaxing in a hug.

Who knew?

I drop my defenses and I open my heart.  I let go.

When was the last time you opened your heart in a hug?

Over lunch I go to him.  “I have to tell you something” I say and I watch as a concerned look appears on his face.  “I had a breakthrough with you”.  My heart is beating very fast and my mouth is dry.  I’m not used to being vulnerable and telling people the deepest things going on with me.

You did”? He is curious to know more.

Yes”.  I take a deep breath.  “Remember the hugging exercise we did”?  

He nods.

Well, when we hugged, you created a safe space for me to trust”.  I explain.  “You held me in a way that helped me to let go so I could allow the hug.  Do you know what I mean”?

I really wanted him to get what I was saying.

I think so” he said, but I’m not sure he did.

It was really important for me” I went on.  “I have struggled with allowing anyone close most of my life, and with your hug, well that seemed to magically disappear.  I wanted to tell you so you would know I’m so grateful.

I was gushing now, eager for him to understand.

I, I mean not in a sexual way, well, just that it was really nice and it opened me up to something I’ve never felt before with anyone, so thank you.  I mean it.  Really.  Thank you”.

He looked at me and smiled.  “Really? Wow!” His eyes were sparkling.  “I did that?”.  His question was genuine. 

Yes, so thank you“. I was still nervous, but less so.

Thanks for telling me” he went on.  “I had no idea”.

Well, I just wanted you to know”. I explained.  We smiled, and then it was a little awkward.

Do you want another hug?” he asked.

Oh yes please” I laughed.  And when we hugged for the second time, I felt it again.

Safe.  Warm.   Comfortable.  Connected.  Not weird.  And not awkward.


Have no expectations, and just enjoy the experience!

  • Move together into a hug.
  • Embrace and connect at the heart by touching chests, left to left (not straight on)
  • Touch thighs against each other.

Don’t be afraid to be close.

  • If the hug is with a friend, breathe normally, drop into the hug and allow yourself to let go and relax by breathing deeply in flow.
  • If the hug is with your lover, try some Tantric breathing in addition to the physical hug.  Touch your tongue to the roof of your mouth (this helps complete the energy circuit).  
  • As the man breathes out he imagines his energy entering the woman at her root chakra (base of the spine) and the woman breathes in, imagining the energy flowing up from the pelvic floor to her heart. 
  • As the woman breathes out, the man imagines taking her energy back in through his heart and moving down his spine to his root chakra.  This circular breath helps sexual energy flow in a cosmic circle through you both. The direction of the energy can also be switched.

Don’t worry, you can’t do it wrong.

  • Notice what comes up for you and let it be present.
  • Allow yourself to be held.  Hold the other person. Remember they are having their own experience too.

Relax and enjoy the embrace.

  • Hug for about 12 breaths or 30-60 seconds.
  • As you separate, share freely about your experience.

If, like me, you find this tough, persevere.  It gets better.

The secret is the thigh to thigh contact, and not making it sexual.  If you want to practice with others (not your lover), just breathe normally throughout the entire hug experience.

Just keep on hugging.